Just say no to alpha males & change the world.

Lately I keep returning to thinking about why things are as unacceptable as they are in regard to the evolution of human beings and more importantly, the state of the planet. The two are inexorably linked, so perhaps you've been wondering about this, too. It seemed like we were off to a really good start at making substantial changes for the better during the end of the 1960's through the mid-70's. It felt like there was a realization that greed and self-aggrandizement were causing a hell of a lot of problems. It felt like people were waking up. Nixon resigned. The war in Vietnam ended. Not everyone wanted to be a millionaire. The future looked reasonably bright. It was a good time to be alive.

Today I see a fair amount of younger people embracing change, finding more spirituality in their lives, seriously questioning the nine-to-five corporate lifestyle and willing to work to save the environment. But my concern is that they are still in the minority. I live just outside of San Francisco and it's easy to forget that for every person who is careful to recycle, use less resources and eat organic food there are hundreds who are oblivious. They read "People" magazine and watch reality TV shows. They shop at the mall whenever they get the chance. Their primary focus is on making more money, having a family and buying more stuff. It's the individual at the expense of the community.

So, I'm trying to figure out how we can break this cycle? How can we cause a substantial, irreversible paradigm shift not just in this country but throughout the world? The answer, I believe, is that women can make this happen. But perhaps not in a way that you might think of immediately. Allow me to explain.

My proposition is that the majority of the world's most substantial problems are caused by alpha males. This is nothing new. Alpha males are the ones who believe they are the rightful heirs to the lion's share of whatever the planet has to offer. They are kings and board members and senators and presidents and so on. They live in great big houses in exclusive neighborhoods. They fly off to vacation homes. They drive gas-guzzling vehicles like Hummers and BMW's and Porches. (Wanna-be alpha males drive Corvettes) "Have you seen the little piggies, leading piggy lives?" - George Harrison. Like it or not, they are in control. Think of men like Dick Cheney or Ken Lay or Ray Welch. They do a hell of a job for themselves and a few other alpha male associates (it's a network) and a horrible one for just about everyone else. When the salary of the CEO is 10,000 times that of someone who works in the factory, something is very very wrong.

So here's my proposition: Women of the world (and naturally, some men as well) need to stop having sex with alpha males. Refuse them something they believe comes by birthright. Take away one of the things that defines their power. Show them that we are determined as human beings to cause a sea change. That's it. Once the alpha males have been deprived of sexual congress they will no longer be held in high esteem by societies everywhere, paving the way for something entirely new. Leaders who by their very nature are not so obsessed with having the biggest yacht in the damn harbor. Imagine people working for the good of the many rather than the privileged few.

This won't be easy. Alpha males have traditionally been able to talk their way into having sexual relations with just about anyone. It's one of the primary reasons they became alpha males -- that, and because it gives them time to play golf. Think of the football captain in high school or that astonishingly good-looking lead actor in the most recent blockbuster. Alpha males are traditionally attractive, persuasive, confident and what's worse is they can buy you just about anything you want. Especially if they want to seduce you. Does the name Tiffany ring a bell? They have titles like doctor and lawyer and Mr. Ambassador. They run the banks and the oil cartels and weapons companies. They're the boisterous and well-to-do devil on your right shoulder while the more modest angel sits on your left and shakes her head.

But of course, the good news is this doesn't mean no sex. It just means no sex for the guys who have never had any trouble getting it. So instead of being interesting in what kind of hot car your date drives, ask to see his compost pile. Find out if he's ever participated in any kind of demonstration against the war. Tell him you get turned on by yoga, poetry, vegetarians and chanting. If you have any question at all whether or not a guy you'd like to go to bed with is an alpha-male, don't worry about it. Alpha-males constantly broadcast their "alpha-superiority", so just the fact that you aren't sure means he's ok.

Since alpha males almost inevitably require a trophy girlfriend or wife, it's critical that this movement take firm root with women that societies find "most attractive". In ours, that means anyone who has ever been or has even thought about being a model. If we can get the models to "just say no" to the guy with the Armani suit and diversified stock portfolio, we just might save the world. Because when beautiful women refuse to sleep with alpha males, it WILL cause them to change their behavior. Honestly, they won't last long. If I could think of something else that would work, like a slap in the face or a kick in the ass, I'd suggest that. But those things have been tried. It's time for something more drastic. It's up to the women of the world now.